Crappy Relationship ROI? Stop Getting Ripped Off!

Posted on July 21, 2011 by Life Coach Reid Walley

You changed for somebody else – you invested all that effort. Then they stormed out and you’re left with an “empty” version of yourself. You shoved your square peg through a round hole and come out damaged and unrecognizable.

Your return on investment (ROI) sucks!

Now begins the long-ass journey back to… yourself. This stage of the process has you starting at minus zero. Because the investment you made wasn’t actually for you – it was for someone else. And you got left behind with nothing to show for all of your hard work.

When you change for someone else, they’re the one that leaves with all of your changes. It’s like shopping for new clothes that you never get to wear. And when you get dumped you don’t even get your clothes back, you end up in tattered rags.

Change is good, but who keeps the ROI? Stop getting ripped off. Invest in yourself. Invest in your own growth, confidence and success.

I am the problem!

Posted on July 20, 2011 by Life Coach Reid Walley

Sometimes the answer is buried deep inside the very frustration that had previously received my cursing. Sometimes frustration itself is the doorway toward an answer. Maybe it just needs a different angle, a different set of keys, a different set of eyes.

Sometimes there’s already somebody on the other side of the door that can simply unlock it! Heck, sometimes there’s somebody standing right next to me that has the exact key to unlock the door, and I just never asked.

If I knew it was gonna be so difficult, I would have realized I was the problem sooner.

Boxers don’t put nay-sayers in their corner!

Posted on July 15, 2011 by Life Coach Reid Walley

A boxer wouldn’t last a single round in the ring if their trainer and team were telling them they should give up, that they’re not smart enough, strong enough or fast enough! You wouldn’t last a single round in your day-to-day life with all that crap in your corner, either.

You have a person in the ring coming at you with punches, trying to knock you out. Life can be the same. What are the people in your corner saying to help you win?

Some family and friend’s comments may be loving and protective, but ultimately defeating. Other times they’re just plain hurtful and demeaning. Their feedback may be completely unhelpful.

It doesn’t always mean that family and friends don’t love you, it just means they don’t always know how to help you.

You need someone in your corner to help you kick ass – to provide strategic, productive and actionable feedback.

Sometimes a little “believing in somebody” has a huge impact that they don’t get anywhere else.

Productivity levels through the roof! – 37signals co-founder

Posted on July 13, 2011 by Life Coach Reid Walley

“When you have a natural interest in something, your productivity levels are through the roof! When you are naturally inspired to work on something, the amount of work you get done is incredible!”

David Heinemeier Hansson, co-founder 37signals
Signal vs. Noise Podcast: http://bit.ly/jWp99e

Crap is meant to be flushed down the toilet, not kept around the house.

Posted on July 11, 2011 by Life Coach Reid Walley

Overheard: “I love her like a sister, you know. Which means I hate her like a sister.”

So, one day the relationship is strong and the next day it’s weak.
One day it’s sugar, the next day it’s poison.
One day it’s nutritional, the next day it’s garbage.
One day it’s healthy, the next day it’s a heart attack.

You can’t keep putting up with crap just because you think the seemingly-clean half is the payoff. Get a better relationship. Get a better filter for keeping crappy relationships out of your life. Dump shit that stinks – simply for no other reason than it stinks!

Crap is meant to be flushed down the toilet, not kept around the house.