I’m a pretty good kisser. But when I’m yelling and screaming at my girlfriend she probably forgets all that. How I “react” is my life. She doesn’t know if she can really “trust” me until she sees how I react under pressure, when I’m angry. Then the story she tells her girlfriends is complete: he’s a good kisser, but, shit, what’s with this “reacting with anger” bullshit?!?
How I “react” IS my life!
This is when you need a life/business coach:
Years ago a business-owner friend of mine mentioned she had successfully “won” an email argument with a customer that was an asshole. The email exchange lasted for 4 hours. The upside: my business-owner friend felt vindicated. She couldn’t let it go, she “had” to put him in his place. The downside: she couldn’t let it go, she “had” to put him in his place.
She couldn’t walk away and let it go. She was so angry that she ended up wasting 4 hours of her life YELLING IN ALL CAPS! Those were 4 hours that should have been devoted to sales, marketing, employee training and managing her business. All because she couldn’t control her emotions – and she hated that she couldn’t control her emotions. Which pissed her off long after she had “won” the email battle.
This is when you need a life/business coach!