There’s gotta be something better than this 75 year old book!

Is there a modern equivalent to Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends & Influence People? I mean, c’mon, it was published way back in 1936. They barely had cars, electricity or TV back then. Heck, the era that AMC’s Mad Men portrays hadn’t even happened yet. There was no Internet, no e-commerce, no social media in 1936.

The World has changed. Somebody else must have written something better than Carnegie’s classic in the last 75 years! So, I posed this question on LinkedIn in October 2011 and received some great feedback. By the way, the following list is not in any particular order of goodness.

  1. Book: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  2. Book: Getting Naked: A Business Fable About Shedding The Three Fears That Sabotage Client Loyalty

    Author: Patrick Lencioni
    Author’s Website: http://www.tablegroup.com/
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  3. Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age(Oct 4, 2011)

    Author: Dale Carnegie
    Recommended by: Todd South
  4. Book: Enchantment: The Art of Changing Hearts, Minds, and Actions

    Author: Guy Kawasaki
    Testimonial: “The best overall treatise on interpersonal relationships since Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People.” – Michael Gartenberg, Research Director, Gartner
    Recommended by: Hillary Schieve
  5. Book: Influence: Science and Practice

    Author: Robert Cialdini
    Author’s Website: http://www.influenceatwork.com/
    Recommended by: Francesco Ferzini
  6. Book: Winning with People: Discover the People Principles that Work for You Every Time

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Bill Martin
  7. Book: The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

    Author: Jack Canfield
    Book’s Website: http://www.thesuccessprinciples.com/
    Recommended by: Clay Hall
  8. Book: Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

    Author: Simon Sinek
    Authors’s Website: http://www.startwithwhy.com/
    TED Conference: Video
    Recommended, independently, by: Alice Heiman and John Bankhead
    Alice’s comment: I recommend the How to Win Friends & Influence People book to all the young people I mentor and the college students I teach. I don’t know of anything new with the same message, but I do love the book Start With Why by Simon Sinek and have been sending that out to all my CEOs.
  9. Book: Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

    Author: Keith Ferrazzi
    Recommended by: Oliver Lee Mincey
    Oliver’s comment: I enjoyed the book. Not quite Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends, but it does have some good nuggets.
  10. Book: Engage: The Complete Guide for Brands and Businesses to Build, Cultivate, and Measure Success in the New Web

    Author: Brian Solis
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  11. Book: Trust Agents: Using the Web to Build Influence, Improve Reputation, and Earn Trust

    Authors: Chris Brogan & Julien Smith
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  12. Book: You Can’t Teach a Kid to Ride a Bike at a Seminar: The Sandler Sales Institute’s 7-Step System for Successful Selling

    Author: David H. Sandler
    Recommended by: Luke Davies

While everybody recommended an alternative, almost everybody agreed that Carnegie’s How to Win Friends was still the timeless gold standard.

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Little Blue Book of Staying Afloat – New York Times bestselling author Jeffrey Gitomer

Little Blue Book of Staying Afloat
New York Times bestselling author Jeffrey Gitomer tells you how to sell anything in any economy

“Jeffrey, I want to know, what do YOU do to maintain success?”

The answer is pretty simple. There are no secrets. There’s nothing I do that I consider out of the ordinary. It’s what I do on a consistent basis that counts.

I READ. I wake up every morning, and read two pages from some kind of personal success book that’s more than 50 years old. What to read? Anything by Napoleon Hill, especially “The Law of Success”, or “The Magic Ladder to Success”. Anything by Dale Carnegie, “How to Win Friends & Influence People”, or “How to Stop Worrying & Start Living” in particular. Now, I’ve only been doing that for 39 years, so I don’t know if it works yet. I’m going to do it for another 39 years, and that’s it — I’m going to quit.

I CAPTURE AND COLLECT THOUGHTS AND IDEAS. When things occur to me or I read something that inspires me, the first thing I do is go to my computer. I write a column every week on selling skills, but I don’t just write the column, I collect ideas so I can always be ahead. I’ve written more than 950 columns to date, but I’ve got 500 more ideas waiting to be evolved.

I WRITE. When I write everything down, it clarifies my own ideas, it generates new ideas, and it creates content for my speeches, and for my books. My challenge to you is this: If you want to be a success, you can’t just read, you have to write.

I SPEAK. The next thing you need to do is present — in public — and the best way to do that is to join Toastmasters. Deliver 10 speeches, and you can get your Competent Toastmaster Award. Can you sell the entire group? When you learn to present to a group, selling one-on-one becomes a piece of cake.

I POSITION TO WIN WITH “VALUE FIRST.” The same goes for marketing (attracting people who are interested to buy). I position myself to be seen and read as a person of value. I put myself in front of people who can say yes to me, and I deliver value first.

I STRIVE TO MASTER. Again, no secret here. Master the fundamentals. Study them and practice them daily. You have to have deep focus, and take that internal daily dose, so that you can, day by day, become great.

I LOVE IT. I wake up in the morning, and I can’t wait to look at my schedule. Sometimes it’s giving a speech, sometimes it’s writing more for my books, sometimes it’s interviewing people, and sometimes it’s making sales to CEOs of large corporations. I go on sales calls every week, so I can stay at the top of my game. I don’t just teach sales, I make sales.

I WORK HARD. People ask me, “How’d you get great at sales?” And I tell them, “Well, I just worked my rear end off for 20 years, and then, all of the sudden, it happened.”

The same thing can happen to you, but you have to love it. I’m challenging you to go back, and re-read to this formula — there’s no magic to it, but add passion, and the results will be magical.

http://www.newwordcity.com/books/all/little-blue-book-of-staying-afloat/

Life Coach Reid Walley – Marriage 101 – Study Together; Stay Together

Life Coach Reid Walley – Study Together; Stay Together – Hewlett-Packard from Reid Walley on Vimeo.

“Study Together; Stay Together” presented during HP Northside Toastmasters meeting at Hewlett-Packard in Roseville, CA, July 22, 2010. Invited to be a guest speaker by Kevin Levine (VP Education).

Develop All You’re Worth. Don’t Lose Your Spark ~ Henry Ford

“… [each person] should look for the single spark of individuality that makes them different from other folks, and develop that for all they’re worth. Society and schools may try to iron it out of them; their tendency is to put us all in the same mold, but I say don’t let that spark be lost; it’s your only real claim to importance.”

~ Henry Ford (as quoted by Dale Carnegie in “How to Develop Self-Confidence and Influence People by Public Speaking.” Page 96)