Customer service is for your spouse, too!

I take full responsibility for the shitty way I treated my wife, regardless of how she treated me. I definitely would have never reacted to my customers the way I yelled and screamed at my wife.

I was always much more careful in how I reacted toward my customers, but when I got home I didn’t have to be nice. And that was the problem, I never treated my wife with the same respectful consequence-oriented customer service that I showed my clients.

I would never would have been such an asshole to my customers. But I certainly was one toward my wife.

Good customer service = good relationship.

Crappy customer service = crappy relationship.

It’s like going to the toy store and purposefully buying a defective toy and then complaining that it’s broken. You picked it. Why?

I get along really well with my amazing ex-wife, Lisa. It took some doing on both our parts: I apologized for being an asshole when we were married and so did she. Over the years we’ve actually become good friends – something that never existed when we were married. But there are also healthy & unhealthy boundaries in our lives and if an ex-spouse, boss, co-worker, parent, friend is asking for something that’s inappropriate, insincere or just plain manipulative bullshit, then it’s good to say “no” – regardless of how upset they get.

When I got married, I had NO IDEA what the hell I was doing! I went to college for a bunch of years, read a bunch of books and took a ton of tests – but I never learned how to have a successful marriage. There aren’t any college courses in “successful marriage,” and there should have been. I had no tools, no training and a complete delusional sense that it would all just work out – it did, in divorce.

We gotta take marriage just as seriously as we take getting a degree. How many books have you and your spouse read that focuses on a successful marriage? How many tests have you passed with at least a “C” that tested your knowledge about how to have a successful marriage? My guess is NONE!

Stop dating, having sex with, and marrying people that you know are defective! At least stop whining about your spouse being broken when you knew they were defective before you married them.

Four-year college degree = studying, quizzes, tests, mid-terms and finals!

Successful marriage = where the hell do people go to get a degree in “successful marriage”?

When does anybody ever spend the time studying, taking quizzes, tests, mid-terms and finals for a successful marriage? All this effort spent on getting a degree (a career) and America has a 50% divorce rate. College degrees, Masters, Ph.Ds all take a lot of work and a lot of book reading.

What, we can’t read 3 books on how to have a successful marriage career?

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I don’t need to get “over” my ex-wife, I need to add her to my resume of amazing life experiences! This is a way to happiness that I wish I had known years ago when I first got divorced. I didn’t need to “hate” or “get over” or “get past” my ex-wife, I needed to add her to the amazing life orchestra that I’m conducting AND move forward. My ex-wife and I get along fantastically now, especially after a couple of authentic apologies on both our parts in recent years. She’s an amazing human being, and she and I send warm holiday regards to each other and our families every year.