There’s gotta be something better than this 75 year old book!

Is there a modern equivalent to Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends & Influence People? I mean, c’mon, it was published way back in 1936. They barely had cars, electricity or TV back then. Heck, the era that AMC’s Mad Men portrays hadn’t even happened yet. There was no Internet, no e-commerce, no social media in 1936.

The World has changed. Somebody else must have written something better than Carnegie’s classic in the last 75 years! So, I posed this question on LinkedIn in October 2011 and received some great feedback. By the way, the following list is not in any particular order of goodness.

  1. Book: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  2. Book: Getting Naked: A Business Fable About Shedding The Three Fears That Sabotage Client Loyalty

    Author: Patrick Lencioni
    Author’s Website: http://www.tablegroup.com/
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  3. Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age(Oct 4, 2011)

    Author: Dale Carnegie
    Recommended by: Todd South
  4. Book: Enchantment: The Art of Changing Hearts, Minds, and Actions

    Author: Guy Kawasaki
    Testimonial: “The best overall treatise on interpersonal relationships since Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People.” – Michael Gartenberg, Research Director, Gartner
    Recommended by: Hillary Schieve
  5. Book: Influence: Science and Practice

    Author: Robert Cialdini
    Author’s Website: http://www.influenceatwork.com/
    Recommended by: Francesco Ferzini
  6. Book: Winning with People: Discover the People Principles that Work for You Every Time

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Bill Martin
  7. Book: The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

    Author: Jack Canfield
    Book’s Website: http://www.thesuccessprinciples.com/
    Recommended by: Clay Hall
  8. Book: Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

    Author: Simon Sinek
    Authors’s Website: http://www.startwithwhy.com/
    TED Conference: Video
    Recommended, independently, by: Alice Heiman and John Bankhead
    Alice’s comment: I recommend the How to Win Friends & Influence People book to all the young people I mentor and the college students I teach. I don’t know of anything new with the same message, but I do love the book Start With Why by Simon Sinek and have been sending that out to all my CEOs.
  9. Book: Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

    Author: Keith Ferrazzi
    Recommended by: Oliver Lee Mincey
    Oliver’s comment: I enjoyed the book. Not quite Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends, but it does have some good nuggets.
  10. Book: Engage: The Complete Guide for Brands and Businesses to Build, Cultivate, and Measure Success in the New Web

    Author: Brian Solis
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  11. Book: Trust Agents: Using the Web to Build Influence, Improve Reputation, and Earn Trust

    Authors: Chris Brogan & Julien Smith
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  12. Book: You Can’t Teach a Kid to Ride a Bike at a Seminar: The Sandler Sales Institute’s 7-Step System for Successful Selling

    Author: David H. Sandler
    Recommended by: Luke Davies

While everybody recommended an alternative, almost everybody agreed that Carnegie’s How to Win Friends was still the timeless gold standard.

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Executive coach – Guy Kawasaki on The Art of Customer Service

Business Coach – Guy Kawasaki on The Art of Customer Service

(From http://blogs.openforum.com/2008/12/17/the-art-of-customer-service/)

Reality Check: The Irreverent Guide to Outsmarting, Outmanaging, and Outmarketing Your Competition - Guy KawasakiI’m a huge fan of Guy Kawasaki and own a thoroughly highlighted copy of his book, The Art of the Start. The excerpt below is from a chapter in Guy’s new book, Reality Check: The Irreverent Guide to Outsmarting, Outmanaging, and Outmarketing Your Competition

  1. Start at the top. The CEO’s attitude toward customer service determines the quality of service that a company delivers. If the CEO thinks that customers are a pain in the ass, her company will provide lousy service. If the CEO thinks customers are treasured assets, it will provide great service. If you’re not the CEO, either change her mind, quit, or learn to live with mediocrity—in that order.I’m pretty sure you can check this box off at Virgin.
  2. Put the customer in control. The best customer service happens when management enables employees to put the customer in control. Th is requires two leaps of faith: first, trusting customers to not take advantage of the situation; second, trusting employees to make sound decisions. If you can make these leaps, then the quality of your customer service will zoom; if not … well, there is nothing more frustrating than working for a firm that cops the attitude that something is “against company policy.”
  3. Take responsibility for your shortcomings. Companies that take responsibility for their shortcomings garner good customer-service reputations because they have acknowledged that the problem is their fault and their responsibility to fix. Most people understand that “shiitake happens,” but it’s aggravating when companies deny that the problem is their fault and responsibility. Th at’s when you hear people say, “It’s the principle.”
  4. Don’t point the finger. This is the flip side of taking responsibility. For example, when a computer program doesn’t work, vendors resort to finger pointing: “It’s Apple’s system software.” “It’s Microsoft’s application.” “It’s Adobe’s PDF format.” A great customer-service company doesn’t point the finger; it figures out what the solution is, regardless of whose fault the problem is, and makes the customer happy. As my mother used to say, quoting Eldrige Cleaver, “You’re either part of the solution or you’re part of the problem.” (By the way, as a rule of thumb, the company with the largest market capitalization is the one at fault.)
  5. Don’t finger the pointer. Great customer service companies don’t shoot the messenger. It could be a customer, an employee, a vendor, or a consultant who’s doing the pointing. The goal is not to silence the messenger, but to fix the problem so that the messenger never has to bring that message again.
  6. Don’t be paranoid. One of the most common justifications for lousy service is “What if everyone did this?” For example, to cite the often-told, perhaps apocryphal, story of a customer returning a tire to Nordstrom even though Nordstrom doesn’t sell tires: What if everyone started returning tires to Nordstrom? However, the worst case is seldom the common case. There will be abusers, but generally people are reasonable.
  7. Hire the right kind of people. To put it mildly, customer service is not a job for everyone. The ideal customer-service person derives great satisfaction by helping people and solving problems. Th is cannot be said of every job candidate. It’s the company’s responsibility to hire the right kind of people for this job, because it is a bad experience for the employee and the customer when you hire folks without a service orientation.
  8. Underpromise and overdeliver. The goal is to delight a customer. For example, the signs in the lines at Disneyland that tell you how long you’ll have to wait from each point are purposely overstated. When you get to the ride in less time, you’re delighted. Imagine if the signs were understated— you’d be angry because Disneyland lied to you.
  9. Integrate customer service into the mainstream. Let’s see: Salespeople make the big bucks. Marketers do the fun stuff. Engineers: You leave them alone in their dark caves. Accounting cuts the paychecks. And customer service? They handle angry people when something isn’t working, and something isn’t working all the time. Customer service largely determines the company’s reputation, so do not consider it a profit-sucking necessary evil.
  10. Don’t give them a sales pitch. Never give customers a sales pitch unless they’re calling your sales department. When customers call for customer service or technical support, they are hardly in a mood for a sales pitch. If you sell anything, you’re in danger of losing the customer, so you certainly should not ask customers to shell out more money to fix problems that they perceive as the company’s fault. And don’t even think about offering more free defective products as a token of your appreciation for their business.
  11. Use operating procedures, not scripts. You’ve probably called at least a few companies and been sure the representative is reading a script—it’s annoying and certainly not personal. Have standard operating procedures for common things, like cancellations and product returns, to ensure the job is done properly, but never ask or train your representatives to read from a script.
  12. Use operators. Use people, not PBX systems (the push 1 for sales, 2 for billing). Make it so the operator can answer basic questions (like How do I sign up?), collect information about problems, assign a ticket number or reference ID, and find an available representative to take the call. If you must use a PBX system, keep it to one level with three or four options, as well as an option to be connected immediately to an operator.
  13. Use a callback system. A few companies have a callback system by which they offer the option of calling you back at a set time rather than making you wait on hold. The first time I encountered one of these systems, I hesitated, thinking I might lose my place in the queue, but it really worked, and I’ve been a believer ever since.
  14. Keep customers in the loop. Customers should never have to ask what you are doing. Let them know what’s happening as you’re doing things like looking up their account or researching an issue. Extending this concept, you can post information about outages right on your Web site, so people don’t have to call to figure out what’s happening. Be honest: Tell them if there’s a problem and what’s causing it, when service will be restored, and what you’re doing to prevent it from happening again.
  15. Make customers feel important. Train your employees to make customers feel important. If a customer makes a suggestion, the representative should note it and let the customer know he’s noted it. Don’t hesitate to do things like give credits or say things like “because you’re a valued customer, we can do this for you.” Customers are usually frustrated when they call customer service or support, so try to make them feel good.
  16. Follow up. The biggest difference between acceptable and great customer service is how often and how well the customer-service department follows up on requests. Give customers a call or send them an e-mail with the result of their complaint or request. If a customer calls with a problem and you believe it’s resolved, call or send an e-mail to ask if the issue has been resolved to their satisfaction.

The irony of customer service is that at an intuitive level, most people know that it largely determines a company’s reputation, but companies spend less money on it than sales and marketing. The double irony of customer service is that nothing I’ve listed is particularly expensive. Now you know what to do, how to do it, and how cheap it is to do, so you have absolutely no excuses for poor customer service.