I’m a pretty good kisser. But when I’m yelling and screaming at my girlfriend she probably forgets all that. How I “react” is my life. She doesn’t know if she can really “trust” me until she sees how I react under pressure, when I’m angry. Then the story she tells her girlfriends is complete: he’s a good kisser, but, shit, what’s with this “reacting with anger” bullshit?!?

How I “react” IS my life!

Negative people tend to stand and yell at you through an open door – a door that you yourself continue to leave open.

Close the door!

You decide where you waste your time. You decide how you waste your time. You decide who wastes your time. Are the situations that you allow to influence your life – friends, lovers, spouses, parents, bosses, co-workers, counselors, teachers – worth it? Do they help or hinder? Do they put you down or build you up?

Stop letting crap invade and influence your life! You decide which doors to keep open and which doors to close.

You decide!

Traditional dating has always been a form of slimy used car salesperson’s bait-and-switch mixed with a too-good-to-be-true job interview.

When you die, what legacy lives on in those around you? What legacy lives on for the generation, community, country and world that continues on after you die? What useful tools do you leave behind that can be used, shared and duplicated in the generation, community, country and world once you’re gone?

“I think the most important thing in life is to just go on and find something that you’re passionate about, find something that you love, and fight for that. And not have anybody take that away from you. You can know your limits. But never, ever stop trying to break them. We are stronger for the things we face.”

Kyle Maynard, born without arms or legs, fought his first MMA match in 2009. Owns his own gym, has done 100s of public speaking events and has written a book. He’ll change your definition of “disability” forever.

http://www.hulu.com/watch/170590/a-fighting-chance

~Reid Walley

Critics can sometimes provide erudite observations about you. And sometimes those observations help to clarify who you are and what your cause is. Listen to criticism, filter out what doesn’t apply to you and search for the golden nuggets within their statements.

I was recently criticized/accused of being “inspiration guy.” I have to admit, this critic made a very concise observation. “Inspiration guy” is exactly who I am. And though I don’t use this particular title, it fits me perfectly!

Sometimes a critic can really cut-to-the-chase and point out an authentic strength in you. There’s always something to learn, even from your critics.

But beware, critics are not trying to help you succeed. That’s what a life coach is for – contact me, I’d be happy to help you succeed.

Breakthrough with Tony Robbins: Frank and Kristen

This is when you need a life/business coach:

Years ago a business-owner friend of mine mentioned she had successfully “won” an email argument with a customer that was an asshole. The email exchange lasted for 4 hours. The upside: my business-owner friend felt vindicated. She couldn’t let it go, she “had” to put him in his place. The downside: she couldn’t let it go, she “had” to put him in his place.

She couldn’t walk away and let it go. She was so angry that she ended up wasting 4 hours of her life YELLING IN ALL CAPS! Those were 4 hours that should have been devoted to sales, marketing, employee training and managing her business. All because she couldn’t control her emotions – and she hated that she couldn’t control her emotions. Which pissed her off long after she had “won” the email battle.

This is when you need a life/business coach!

A friend of mine just shared how she lost 90 pounds over the last 2-1/2 years – a very healthy pace. It was real, down-to-earth and just plain made sense. She included her high-school days, college days and masters program days – and how each chapter in her school life included less and less exercise and more and more fast food and soda.

She shared how minor depression and the lack of a network of friends during her 2-year masters program played quite a mental role that lead to negative eating/exercise habits. She also shared some of the positive triggers and information that got her back on track.

I’m looking forward to having her share her experience in further detail in a future post.