Answering What is Positive and Negative Self-esteem?
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Who knew that out of all the childhood school playground games, dodgeball would the most realistic introduction to real-life. In the game dodgeball, the ball is thrown at you hard and fast. It tags you. Knocks you down. Leaves welts on your skin. But you survive. You learn to duck and slip some of the…
You are worthy of showing yourself the same kindness – and importance – that you show other people and other beings. You are worthy of freely and easily bathing yourself with kindness and non-judgement. Being a happier human being is a process of analysis, not self-judgement, self-pity, and self-putdowns. Critical self-analysis is good, while critical…
Carrie: “I want to kill all the other drivers on the road while I’m driving to work. I hate the situation I’m stuck in at work!” Had a good chat with my friend Carrie, who hates her job situation but is afraid of standing up for herself by telling her boss what would be better…
Overheard a person at Temple Coffee in Sacramento, CA talk about practicing their presentation. We chatted, and eventually got to the topic of making eye contact. They said they’d recently been on stage and stared at one person the entire time they were speaking, remarking, “I’m sure the person I was staring at felt uncomfortable….
When you videotape yourself once, you capture your mistakes When you videotape yourself over a year, you showcase your progress Facing my fear of public speaking as an arc of progress really helped me stay mentally strong when videotaping each individual speech.
There’s an old saying: “I don’t like to speak of things before they’re finished.” I use to agree with this saying, but not anymore. Sharing the process with your followers on social media is just as fun as the finished thing.
In 1980, from the rolled-down window of a yellow school bus in Long Beach, CA, a voice yelled, “You can’t pop so stop!” They were right, my dance skills sucked. They were wrong, I wasn’t going to stop. Two years later I was teaching popping at The Broadway Academy of Performing Arts in Carmichael, CA….
“Don’t listen to the cheers or the boos” is wise mental health advice from Gary Vaynerchuk. It took me a while to realize, ‘Oh, yeah, people’s cheers should not impact me, just like people’s boos should not impact me.’
That’s why your mental head-game needs to be internal, so that nobody else’s words matter but your own. Your happiness is self-generated.