Lawrence is speaking out about equal pay and gender equality… yeah, yeah, I get it. Before women could vote in America my grandma Pearl was getting her M.D. at one of the few medical schools that even allowed women to attend. So I’ve seen the end result of the struggle. Grandma always spoke her mind, and never took no for an answer.
Lawrence is just now realizing something that my grandma realized 100 years ago: never give up without a fight. In her essay Why Do I Make Less Than My Male Co‑Stars? on Lenny, Jennifer Lawrence gets mad at herself – herself – for failing as a negotiator!
When the Sony hack happened and I found out how much less I was being paid than the lucky people with dicks, I didn’t get mad at Sony. I got mad at myself. I failed as a negotiator because I gave up early.
But if I’m honest with myself, I would be lying if I didn’t say there was an element of wanting to be liked that influenced my decision to close the deal without a real fight. I didn’t want to seem “difficult” or “spoiled.” At the time, that seemed like a fine idea, until I saw the payroll on the Internet and realized every man I was working with definitely didn’t worry about being “difficult” or “spoiled.”
Jennifer Lawrence, American actress
My grandma did not go to medical school and become a doctor in the 1920s without pissing off America’s status quo – including her father, who threatened to disown her if she went to medical school. She went; he did. Grandma didn’t give a shit if people thought she was being “difficult.” And now Jennifer Lawrence has awakened to this same status-quo-shattering superpower. Stand your ground! Be a better negotiator! Fight!
Let’s fix Jennifer’s I-failed-as-a-negotiator dilemma right now! Pitch Anything: An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal is the book she should devour!