Love Is A Risk – Do It Anyway

Maybe love – just flat-out 100% pure love – isn’t a risk at all. Maybe it’s the parceled-out, somewhat held back love that’s a risk.

I’ve totally done that: where I only released as much love as the other person released. I worried about the “balance” of love so much. I never wanted to be more in love than the other person. That always felt painful – like I was out on a limb all by myself. Love had to be fair and it had to be measured as fair. But, shit, that just forced me to match whatever I received, instead of just being purely loving.

Being more in love with someone who was less in love with me always sucked. But the truth is I wasn’t really in love at all, I was in a contest to see who could love the least so as not to get hurt. Instead, I should just “be love” instead of “being in” love.

Love Is A Risk – Do It Anyway

Temper Tantrum, A Love Story – Controlled by Love and Hating Every Minute of It!


I saw the above post on Facebook today. I’ve had that same reaction to love – a long time ago. I also know that when I’ve reacted like the above comment it was because I was emotionally immature. IQ is great, and EQ (emotional intelligence) is there to balance it out.

When someone screams that they’re angry at love, they also mean they’re angry about being *controlled* by love! They feel stupid, embarrassed, tricked, victimized! I’ve totally felt that way about love, too.

How you react IS your life! And right now, the above commenter’s reaction is to hate their life!

If you love somebody, say so! Have no regrets.

“@stevensmithy I love you. I hope you know that.” ~Madison Bohunicky. Madison never found the right moment to say ‘I love you’ to Steve when they were spending time together Monday evening. An hour later he was killed in a three-car accident.

Say ‘I love you’ when you feel it; say it when you mean it! You don’t get a second chance. Have no regrets.

Read the full article by Pete Iorizzo: Online bond shattered by tragic accident

She passively blamed her single status entirely on God

Excerpt from: “9 Things You Simply Must Do – to Succeed in Love and Life” by Dr. Henry Cloud

I have seen lives transformed when people begin to adopt the strategy of asking themselves, What can I do to make this better?

Miracles have occurred. I recently attended the wedding of a woman who had complained to me a couple of years ago saying, “I wish I were married, but God just has not chosen that for me at this point in my life.”

She passively blamed her single status entirely on God. It never occurred to her that she might do something to help him.

I challenged this woman to take responsibility and be proactive. God would help her, but she needed to give him a little cooperation.

Here is the exciting fact: she had been stagnant in her dating life for longer than it took to get moving and get married.