How To Take The Fear Out Of Competing – Workshop

Take The Fear Out Of A Speech Competition – Workshop

During the workshop (part of the Regret Nothing™ Series), I asked audience members to describe what their speech competition fears are:

  • I’m afraid I’ll trip and fall on the way to the stage.
  • Everybody is looking at me and judging me.
  • I’m overly concerned about what I’m wearing and how I look.
  • I just want to get my speech over-and-done with.
  • I get afraid just by looking at the podium/lectern/stage.
  • I’m afraid I’ll get up there, open my mouth, and nothing will come out.

The workshop is broken into 2 segments: before a speech competition, and during a speech competition.

Before a Speech Competition

  • Mental
  • Emotional
  • Physical

During a Speech Competition

  • Eye Contact
  • Fill the Stage
  • Recovery

Personal examples and mistakes, been-there-done-that advice and tips, and wisdom from former World Champions of Public Speaking.

Event: Sacramento Toastmasters District 39 TLI (Toastmasters Leadership Institute) – Enrichment Session
Date: July 19, 2014
Location: University of Phoenix – Sacramento Valley Campus, 2860 Gateway Oaks Dr., Room 131, Sacramento, CA, 95833
Duration: 1 hour, 20 minutes

Handout Materials

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Book mentioned during the workshop

Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek.

At our 2013 Toastmasters District 39 Fall Conference in Sacramento, CA, Ryan Avery stated how much he wished he’d read this book BEFORE he wrote his 2012 World Championship-winning speech.

There's gotta be something better than this 75 year old book!

Is there a modern equivalent to Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends & Influence People? I mean, c’mon, it was published way back in 1936. They barely had cars, electricity or TV back then. Heck, the era that AMC’s Mad Men portrays hadn’t even happened yet. There was no Internet, no e-commerce, no social media in 1936.

The World has changed. Somebody else must have written something better than Carnegie’s classic in the last 75 years! So, I posed this question on LinkedIn in October 2011 and received some great feedback. By the way, the following list is not in any particular order of goodness.

  1. Book: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect: What the Most Effective People Do Differently

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  2. Book: Getting Naked: A Business Fable About Shedding The Three Fears That Sabotage Client Loyalty

    Author: Patrick Lencioni
    Author’s Website:
    Recommended by: Kevin Hrim
  3. Book: How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age(Oct 4, 2011)

    Author: Dale Carnegie
    Recommended by: Todd South
  4. Book: Enchantment: The Art of Changing Hearts, Minds, and Actions

    Author: Guy Kawasaki
    Testimonial: “The best overall treatise on interpersonal relationships since Dale Carnegie wrote How to Win Friends and Influence People.” – Michael Gartenberg, Research Director, Gartner
    Recommended by: Hillary Schieve
  5. Book: Influence: Science and Practice

    Author: Robert Cialdini
    Author’s Website:
    Recommended by: Francesco Ferzini
  6. Book: Winning with People: Discover the People Principles that Work for You Every Time

    Author: John C. Maxwell
    Recommended by: Bill Martin
  7. Book: The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

    Author: Jack Canfield
    Book’s Website:
    Recommended by: Clay Hall
  8. Book: Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

    Author: Simon Sinek
    Authors’s Website:
    TED Conference: Video
    Recommended, independently, by: Alice Heiman and John Bankhead
    Alice’s comment: I recommend the How to Win Friends & Influence People book to all the young people I mentor and the college students I teach. I don’t know of anything new with the same message, but I do love the book Start With Why by Simon Sinek and have been sending that out to all my CEOs.
  9. Book: Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

    Author: Keith Ferrazzi
    Recommended by: Oliver Lee Mincey
    Oliver’s comment: I enjoyed the book. Not quite Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends, but it does have some good nuggets.
  10. Book: Engage: The Complete Guide for Brands and Businesses to Build, Cultivate, and Measure Success in the New Web

    Author: Brian Solis
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  11. Book: Trust Agents: Using the Web to Build Influence, Improve Reputation, and Earn Trust

    Authors: Chris Brogan & Julien Smith
    Recommended by: Felipe Huicochea
  12. Book: You Can’t Teach a Kid to Ride a Bike at a Seminar: The Sandler Sales Institute’s 7-Step System for Successful Selling

    Author: David H. Sandler
    Recommended by: Luke Davies

While everybody recommended an alternative, almost everybody agreed that Carnegie’s How to Win Friends was still the timeless gold standard.

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Simon Sinek: The Golden Circle – What, How, Why

Simon O. Sinek is a marketing consultant known for developing “The Golden Circle,” a model based on human decision-making that guides organizations on how to inspire people to buy or support any product, company or idea.

All organizations and careers function on 3 levels:

  • What you do
  • How you do it
  • Why you do it

The problem is, most don’t even know that “Why” exists.

Also, a conversation with Simon Sinek, @Coloft & event: